Spencer Matthews said he believed his wife Vogue Williams would have left him if he had continued his drinking lifestyle. He received a warning at Alcoholics Anonymous that his wife could leave him and take their children if he continued drinking. Matthews previously drank 10 pints of Guinness a day, a habit he developed while working as a trader at ICAP where drinking heavily was part of the job culture.
Spencer Matthews and Vogue Williams have three children: Theodore (age 7), Gigi (age 5), and Otto (age 3). Spencer Matthews found working with Vogue Williams on similar topics created a competitive scenario that was grating, though he noted this tension has since eased. Spencer Matthews and Vogue Williams now fully support each other without feeling competitive, and they plan to hold a third wedding ceremony for their 10th anniversary.
I was very aware that if I carried on with my drinking and bad habits, that she would get bored, and she would leave me. And I knew that, and she never made that a thing.
Vogue Williams felt embarrassed by her divorce from Brian McFadden, which she has spoken about publicly. In a lighter marital moment, Vogue Williams called Spencer Matthews a 'sicko' for not wearing underwear and rubbing his bum on his trousers, as she humorously recounted. Several questions remain unanswered, including whether Spencer Matthews is currently sober or still drinks occasionally.
The specifics of the planned third wedding ceremony are unclear, and it is unknown why Spencer Matthews left the Spencer & Vogue podcast and what he is currently focusing on in his career. Vogue Williams' reaction to Matthews' comments about her being 'grating to work with' has not been disclosed, and the current status of his relationship with Alcoholics Anonymous and his ongoing recovery process is not confirmed.
She never sat me down and gave me some kind of ultimatum or anything like that. But I could feel it. I could feel that she was a bit disappointed in me.
And yes, I think the light was shone on my boozing when she fell pregnant with our firstborn, Theodore. He made a big difference, I think, to our relationship, obviously, because I think what felt like joint fun became solo fun quite quickly because, obviously, she stopped drinking completely.
And I just didn't, I carried on, and it created this kind of divide in the relationship, but also made me realise, you know, maybe my drinking habits are not normal.
And to begin with, I would say, like, 'Darling, we're watching a film, like, of course it's, like, normal to have a few glasses of red wine'.
Like, we're at home chilling. And she's like, 'You're drinking on your own'. And I'd be like, 'Yeah, because you're pregnant?' And she'd be like, 'Well, because I'm not drinking, do you have to, do you have to drink?' And we'd have the odd chat like that.
I always had jobs where being able to handle your drink really well was a huge bonus.
I was a trader at ICAP and we would drink five to 10 pints every single day and then take clients out at night and if you couldn't do that, you wouldn't get the job, basically.
When I got pregnant my knickers all got too small for me. I had to borrow Amber's knickers.
Spenny just goes around rubbing his bum on his trousers, what a sicko.
I had it in my mind that I would be married with kids when I was 30.
I felt really embarrassed at the start, of the whole failure of getting divorced, but you have to say yes to things and when you feel really down, or sad, break-ups are the hardest thing in the world, I think.
They're almost like a death, you're so engulfed in them, but if you force yourself to go out then it does get easier.
Spenny and I tried not to be with each other, we tried. I'd just come out of a long term relationship and I had been dating around for the first time in my life, it was the first time I'd felt comfortably single in my life and I was like, 'I really want to keep doing this, I'm enjoying myself'.
So I didn't want to be with anybody but we kept falling back into each other. As much as we tried not to be together, we kept coming back together, so that's how I knew [he was the one] in the end.
I didn't love it. I participated very strongly from the beginning. I thought being there you may as well dive in. My first, I have to say, was an eye opener, this guy was keen for me to see that.
When I called him afterwards, he was like 'You see what you saw there could be you and it doesn't matter that you're wealthy and have a fit wife and have lovely kids and your family are well to do.
'If you carry on the way you're going all of that can go. Your wife can leave you, she'll take the kids. Your family will disown you...they'll turn their back on you and you will end up just like that.'
In the first few years of dating I felt like I was a bit out of my depth.
It's nice to feel a sense of equality in a relationship, but I was very aware that if I carried on with my drinking and bad habits that she would get bored and she would leave me.
I knew that. She knew that, she never made it a thing, she never sat me down and gave me some sort of ultimatum, but I could feel it, feel that she was a bit disappointed in me. There was one too many times.
The light was shined on my boozing when she fell pregnant with our first born Theodore.
He made a big difference to our relationship, because what felt like joint fun became solo fun quite quickly because she stopped drinking completely obviously.
And I just didn't I just carried on and it created this divide in the relationship, but also made me realise maybe my drinking habits are not normal.
She wants to be a TV presenter, I've never wanted to be a TV presenter. So having those differences in what we do has been really helpful. When she lands something, I'm really proud of her.
She would get something that I was potentially interested in, it was a bit like, you're happy for your partner obviously, but it's also a bit of a kick in the teeth. It's like well, why didn't I get it?
That creates, not issues, but there is a slight competition is probably a good word for it.
If you're in a competitive scenario with your partner, it can be a bit grating. It does kind of create that bristliness even though at the end of the day, we are very happy for each other. And now, we have none of that.
When he left our podcast, everyone was like, 'What's going on?'